About Me

I am 35, and I am still growing and changing.  That is my goal as a woman after God’s own heart–to grow in Him.

While my husband’s direct ministry is working with men in prison, my personal ministry is for family.  Why family?

What you do doesn’t just effect you–it effects everyone around you.

A direct correlation can be made between the choices you make and the choices that your parents made.   And their choices are reflective of the choices their parents made.  And so forth and so on.  The divorce rate today is the result of the breakdown of family going back two generations at this point.  God hates divorce for many reasons.  If you have been divorced or went through a divorce within your family, you understand.  If you haven’t been affected by divorce, then sadly you are in the minority.

My dad was 19 and my mom was just shy of 15 when they got married.  They got pregnant on purpose, so that they could get married.  (Mom, if you’re reading this, please correct me if I’m wrong.)

They had 5 children, and then they divorced after 20 years of marriage.

What does that have to do with “About Me”?  EVERYTHING! 

I was 14 when they divorced, and even though a part of me was glad, because all they did by that point was argue, there are other ways to stop the arguing.  I’m old enough now to not point fingers.  I am on my second marriage.  I was on my way to a third.  But, thankfully, my husband and I both quit running from God nine years ago.

Running toward God is much much more effective!

Thankfully, I did not have any children with my first husband.  I was 17, and he was 22, and we were both very stupid and selfish.  We went to church three services a week, and everyone at church was shocked (or so they said) when we divorced after 5 years.  That has been 12 years ago, and I still deal with ramifications from that area of my life, of my heart.  The primary problem was that I made a bad mate choice.  The secondary problem was that I went into the marriage with divorce as an option in my mind.

I have been with my husband for 12 years, married to him for 10 this September (2011).  I am his third marriage.  He has a daughter from his first marriage (they were also teenagers), and a son from his second marriage (bad mate choice).  I know firsthand the ramifications of divorce from several different viewpoints.  And all of they yucky, sticky, smelly mess that goes along with it.

Okay, enough about divorce for now.  My husband and I have two children of our own, a 10 year old boy, and a 5 year old girl.  We homeschool.  We have sit-down dinners.  We don’t have cable or public tv.

Yes, we are different AND WE LIKE IT!

They were clean!

I have taught myself to sew and play piano in the last three years, though not both at the same time.  In Christ, I am becoming the woman He wants me to be.  Now, that also includes “minister’s wife.”

I will be devoting lots of posts to the myriad of information that stirs the “About Me” pot.  Being a woman of strong opinion, I welcome yours as well!


19 thoughts on “About Me

    • It is you who inspires me! What an awesome testimony you have of recovery after abuse and of giving yourself to sacrificially to the women and need in our community. Well, your community now, lol. I love you and I will still hopefully see you at ladies conference!

  1. Hey there…just stopped by to say I love you all and know ya’ll are gonna do great…Very proud of how much you have grown in the Lord…as long as He is always at the center of everything, He will reward you abundantly….Be blessed today and know that you are loved….

  2. Well, Sister Melinda! I am so proud of you! You have come a loooong way & are doing so great. Your great with the piano & just everything. You have an awesome testimony too. Keep up the great work, love you!

  3. This section made me think about spiritual sole ties and generational curses. Ever heard of them? I think you would appreciate the book, “Loosing The Key of David”. I had a lot of sole ties to break and can not explain the freedom I feel from breaking them in Jesus’ name. If you are interested you can email me to talk more. thestraightenedpath (at) gmail (dot) com Otherwise I highly recommend the book. I think you’ll be pleased.

  4. “I7: Use the I chord and also add in the seventh note of the chord. So for a I7 in the key of C, you would use C,E,F,G.”
    The seventh in the key of C should be a Bm, so why are you putting an F in it? F is a 4th.?? Confused…

  5. So glad to find your sight. . I am also a ministers wife, a divorcee, and taught myself to play piano…Your sight is so amazing. Thank you for sharing.

  6. Hi there. Thank you so much for the music/piano download. We are a church plant in Corpus Christi and my 14 yo son is my piano player. Your download is an answer to prayer! I was wondering if you could somehow get the sheet music to Jeff and Sherri Easter, “I don’t have a prayer without you”. It is a beautiful song. We used to sing it in our home church, but my son wasn’t branching musically at that time. Thanks! Ray

    • I will sure see what I can do. I am so glad that you found this helpful. Many, many, MANY hours of work went into this. I always enjoy knowing when someone found it useful. Blessings!

  7. Just wanted to thank you for the site, I was doing a search for the song ” I just want to thank You Lord ” chords, and while I didn’t find it, I was impressed by what I found. I downloaded the 100+ chord sheets for church file and printed out a bunch of the songs and the scales sheet. I had to check out the rest of your site. I’m going to have my wife check it out too. Thanks so much for everything!

    • Yay! Thanks! So, so glad you found all of this helpful. Hopefully I will have time soon to finish the hymnal edition. Progress has been so slow, but it is not forgotten.

  8. Your piano sheets were a tremendous help, I. Play for a small home missions church in San Angelo Texas. Thank you, thank you and keep them coming 🙂

  9. I read your post regarding your reasons for not doing Wife Swap. We are the family that did. haha. Your wisdom was obvious in your list of reasons why you said no to them, and I respect it, totally. I am a home schooling Christian mama of 5. I just wanted to let you know I read your blog about it. God has used our experience, and I am very thankful for that!

    • Hey! That is so neat that you found me. I would love to have you give an account of your experience. If you don’t want to share it with the world, you can just tell me privately. The whole thing still intrigues me 🙂 If I was a cat, I would be so dead, lol.

  10. Can I just say, thank you for being here 🙂 I longed for the day I would find a blog that fit the type of person I am and could relate to it. Not all of us fall in love with our childhood sweethearts, have babies and have cinnamon rolls in the oven at 6am. I am a work in progress and I am glad to see somebody else who feels the same way in the christian mom community. Let the Lord bless you and your family richly.

  11. Dear Mary/and/or/Martha,
    God’s timing is interesting, isn’t it? I couldn’t sleep and clicked on the computer to find the screen open to your song page There’s Just Something About that Name. My husband is a music minister here in Michigan and he had been looking for that song and left the site open.

    I appreciated reading your most recent entry about the importance of face to face time. My husband and I have a lunch date today, that I was going to cancel. He recently left a job that he had been at for 29 years, and I am still working. He is seeking Divine Direction for the next part of his life’s journey.

    Thank you for reminding all of us of life’s essential ingredient- love.

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