The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil–Proverbs 31:11
Very few relationships have the level of trust that is outlined below. This is because we listen to influences outside of the Bible. We are fed the lie of “self”, which flies in the face of everything Christian.
It is essential that we die to “self”.
Not just for our relationship with Christ, but for our relationship with our husband, which effects our quality of life, his quality of life, and our children’s quality of life.
In my study, I found another website that has such an awesome degree of explanation that I am using his content with permission.
Qualities of a Virtuous Woman
- Though she is a woman of spirit herself, yet her desire is to her husband, to know his mind, that she may adapt herself to it, and she is willing that he should rule over her.
- She conducts herself so that he may rest full confidence in her, that he may trust in her chastity, which she never gave him the least occasion to suspect or to entertain any jealousy of.
- She is not moody and temperamental, but modest and dependable, and has all the marks of virtue in her physiognomy and behavior. Her husband knows it, and therefore his heart doth safely trust in her; he is at ease, and makes her also that way.
- He trusts in her conduct, that she will speak in all companies, and act in all affairs, with prudence and discretion, so as not to cause him either damage or reproach.
- He trusts in her fidelity to his interests, and that she will never betray his counsels nor have any interest separate from that of his family.
- She is a good wife that is fit to be trusted, and he can confide in her to order all his affairs at home and to manage for him, as well as if he himself were there, when his duties require travel in official business.
- His heart trusts in her with full confidence. He relies on her prudence and skill. She manages his affairs so that he is always beforehand, has such plenty of his own that he is in no temptation to prey upon his neighbours.
- She contributes so much to his contentment and satisfaction that he shall have no need of spoil; he needs not be griping and scraping or even go to war to obtain riches, as those whose wives are proud and wasteful at home.
The word “no need” in Hebrew is the same used for “lack” in Psa 23:1 indicating “need or want”, “spoil” can include captured girls (concubines) as in Jdg 5:30. But the more clear meaning is that of an expression of simple contentment, he is in need of nothing for she well satisfies him on all fronts. He thinks himself so happy in her that he envies not those who have most of the wealth of this world; he needs it not for he has enough, having such a wife.
If I had to sum this post up, it would be this: be the wife to your husband that you would want your son to marry and your daughter to become.
They are watching you and learning from you, whether your example is good or bad.
I have such a long way to go…. Thank you for going with me.
P.S. Click on the picture above and read that post on her blog. Such a parallel!